On the merit of modesty

On the Merit of Modesty

Like many Bangladeshi women, I was raised to highly value modesty.

However, over time, the concept of "modesty" became distorted, implying "meekness" and suggesting that a lack of self-worth necessitates humility.

There is a difference between humility and modesty. One is a state of mind, personally dictated, belonging to me. The other is a performance that centres a stranger’s perspective, making me less of a person.

The image of a meek woman has been glorified in Bangladeshi culture and beyond, resulting in stigma for women in professional and personal matters.

A woman who sacrifices her own needs and desires is often seen as having merit, even if it means diminishing her own personhood.

Despite growing up abroad, I was taught to view myself through the eyes of others, rather than forging my own identity.

Author's summary: Modesty is often misconstrued as meekness, affecting women's self-worth.

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Dhaka Tribune Dhaka Tribune — 2025-11-01

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