Quiet Habits of Real Friends
I study human connection and have identified 10 quiet habits that separate real friends from surface ones.
Real friends aren’t loud—they’re steady: they remember the small stuff, flex to your needs, repair fast, and quietly subtract friction from your life.
Real friends aren’t loud—they’re steady: they remember the small stuff, flex to your needs, repair fast, and quietly subtract friction from your life
Some friendships are loud—birthday reels, big captions, group selfies. The ones that actually sustain you are usually quiet. They show up in tiny, repeatable moves that don’t trend or beg for applause.
Surface friends remember your headline (“new job,” “vegan now,” “moved to Austin”).
- Remembering the small stuff
- Flexing to your needs
- Repairing fast
- Quietly subtracting friction from your life
Author's summary: Real friends are steady and remember small stuff.